Ko kun kasance cikin dangantaka na 'yan watanni ko 'yan shekarun da suka gabata, akwai ko da yaushe hanyoyin da za ku yi aiki a kan kanku da dangantakar ku da abokin tarayya. Wani lokaci wannan yana nufin karanta littattafan da aka rubuta don wannan takamaiman dalili. Anan, littattafan dangantaka guda 11 waɗanda za su iya taimakawa wajen ƙarfafa haɗin gwiwar ku, a cewar masana a fannin jiyya na ma'aurata - ciki har da wanda mai ilimin hanyoyin kwantar da hankali ya ce ya ceci auren abokan cinikinta.
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daya. Mating a Kamewa: Buɗe Sirrin Batsa da Esther Perel
Mafi kyau ga: ma'auratan da suka kasance tare har abada
Meaghan Rice, PsyD., LPC Talkspace Mai bayarwa, ya gaya mana, Abokan hulɗa na dogon lokaci suna ɗaukar sha'awar kai tsaye daga ma'auni idan ba mu kula da tashi ba. Wannan littafi yana da ban mamaki mai ban mamaki dangane da basirar da muke bukata don dawo da jima'i, jin dadi da kuma ilmin sunadarai da suka kasance a farkon lokacin gudun amarci.
biyu. Ka'idoji Bakwai Don Yin Aiki Aure by John Gottman, PhD. da Nan Silver
Mafi kyau ga: ma'aurata suna tunanin zuwa jiyya tare
John Gottman ya gudanar da bincike na dangantaka da ma'aurata shekaru da yawa. Na wannan littafin, Cynthia Catchings, LCSW-S, LCSW-C, CMHIMP, CFTP, CCRS, Talkspace Mai bayarwa, ya gaya mana, Ina son wannan littafin domin a zahiri ya ceci aure. Ta kara da cewa, Ko da yake babu littafi guda daya da zai ceci dukkan alaka, tunda duk ma'aurata da daidaikun mutane sun bambanta, wannan yana kusa da shi sosai. Yana nuna wasu ƙwaƙƙwaran tushe kuma yana bawa mai karatu damar koyo da raba bayanai shima. Don haka, ana ɗaukar wannan littafin a matsayin dutse mai daraja a duniyar jiyya kuma lamba ta ɗaya a matsayin likita. Tabbas ya cancanci karantawa.
3. Kafa Iyakoki, Nemo Zaman Lafiya: Jagoran Kwato Kanka by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Mafi kyau ga: duk wanda ke da batutuwan iyaka
Wannan littafin yana ba ku damar saita iyakoki masu kyau waɗanda ke da mahimmanci don haɗawa da kanku da kuma tabbatar da cewa dangantakarku tana da tallafi da kulawa, raves Liz Colizza, LPC
Darakta, Bincike & Shirye-shirye a Dorewa .
kai ne babban abokina zance
Hudu. Ruhin da ba a haɗa shi ba: Tafiya Bayan Kanka by Michael A. Singer
Mafi kyau ga: mutanen da suke jin makale
Masanin ilimin halin dan Adam, marubuci kuma kocin rayuwa Dr. Cheyenne Bryant ya gaya mana cewa wannan shine ɗayan mafi kyawun littattafan da ta karanta, hannu. Me yasa? Wannan littafin yana koya muku ƙa'idodi waɗanda ke tada ran ku kuma su canza ra'ayin ku zuwa sararin ƙauna marar yanke hukunci mara ƙa'ida, in ji ta.
5. Halayen Dangantakar Tunani da S.J. Scott da Barrie Davenport
Mafi dacewa ga: ma'auratan da ke da wahalar sauraron juna
Yana da sauƙi don isa wurin da ba mu mai da hankali ba kuma ba mu mai da hankali ba, Rice ta gaya mana, lura da cewa muna ganin wannan musamman tare da abokai, dangi, yara, musamman ma alaƙar mu. Amma abubuwan da muke buƙatar sanyawa don fahimtar gaske, saurare, da kuma tallafa wa ƙaunatattunmu, in ji ta, abubuwan da wannan littafin ke bayarwa ke nan.
6. Rike Ni: Hira Bakwai Tsawon Rayuwar Soyayya by Dr. Sue Johnson
Mafi kyau ga: ma'aurata wanda abokin tarayya ɗaya ke fama
Lokacin da kake cikin mummunan wuri, zai iya zama da sauƙi ka zargi abokin tarayya don duk abin da ba daidai ba maimakon kallon ciki. Colizza ya gaya mana cewa wannan littafi tunatarwa ne cewa, sau da yawa, abokin tarayya ba abokin gaba ba ne; mummunan zagayowar ku shine makiyin ku.
7. Detox na tunani by Dr. Cheyenne Bryant
Mafi kyau ga: duk wanda ya taɓa kasancewa cikin dangantaka mai guba
A cikin littafinta, Dr. Bryant ya ce ana nufin inganta wayar da kan jama'a game da bambance-bambance tsakanin lafiya da lafiya dangantaka mai guba . Ta kara da cewa, Yana koya wa mai karatu mahimmancin kula da kai da son kai don samun dorewar dangantaka mai kyau. Abubuwa biyu da mutane da yawa za su iya amfani da wasu.
8. Zo Kamar Yadda Kuke: Sabon Kimiyya Mai Mamaki Wanda Zai Canza Rayuwar Jima'i da Emily Nagoski
Mafi kyau ga: ma'aurata suna neman kayan yaji a cikin ɗakin kwana
A lokacin aikinta, Rachel O'Neill, PhD., LPCC Talkspace Mai bayarwa, ya yi aiki tare da ma'aurata a kan batutuwan da suka shafi jima'i da kusanci. Littattafai guda biyu da take so akan wannan batu sune Ku zo kamar yadda kuke kuma Ingantacciyar Jima'i Ta Hankali da Lori Brotto. Dukansu littattafan za su iya zama masu taimako ga ma'aurata waɗanda ƙila su yi sha'awar bincika hanyoyin da za su haɓaka sha'awar jima'i tare, in ji ta.
za mu iya shafa glycerin kai tsaye a fuska
9. Littafin Aiki na Ka'idar Haɗe-haɗe: Ƙarfafan Kayan Aikin Haɓaka Fahimta, Ƙara Natsuwa, da Gina Dangantaka Mai Dorewa da Annie Chen
Mafi kyau ga: masu koyon gani
Mafi ma'amala fiye da littafin alaƙa na yau da kullun, wannan littafin aikin yana da darussa masu amfani waɗanda ke taimaka muku ƙaura daga rashin tsaro zuwa tsaro a cikin dangantakar ku, kuma shine abin da aka fi so na Colliza.
10. Kwanaki takwas: Muhimman Tattaunawa na Rayuwar Soyayya John Gottman da Julie Schwartz Gottman
Mafi dacewa ga: ma'auratan da suke jin kamar kwanakin kwanan su sun zama marar kyau
Ina son wannan littafi saboda ya ƙunshi masu karatu, yana gayyatar su su sami kwanaki takwas don tattaunawa da inganta dangantakar su, bayanin kula. Kowanne ɗaya daga cikin kwanakin takwas ɗin ya ƙunshi ɗaya daga cikin batutuwa masu ma'ana waɗanda ma'aurata ke hulɗa dasu. Wannan wajibi ne; yana ƙarfafa dangantaka da gaske.
goma sha daya. Jiki Yana Rike Maki: Kwakwalwa, Hankali, da Jiki a cikin Warkar da Raɗaɗi by Bessel van der Kolk
Mafi kyau ga: duk wanda ya sami rauni
Kowa yana fuskantar rauni a rayuwarsa kuma rauni yana shafar mutane da alaƙa, Colizza ta jaddada. Wannan littafin yana ba ku ikon fahimtar labarun raunin ku kuma kuyi aiki tare da jikin ku don samun waraka, ta bayyana.
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