Kuna son abokin tarayya, amma wani lokacin kuna so ku jefa shi ko ita daga wani dutse. Duk da haka, kuna sha'awar: Menene sirrin nasara na dogon lokaci? To, shaidan yana cikin cikakkun bayanai, ba shakka. A cewar masu bincike, ma'auratan da ke jin daɗi suna raba waɗannan halaye guda biyar.
1. Suna fifita kyawawan halaye
Kun zauna tare har tsawon yaushe? Tabbas yana da sauƙin manta da faɗi don Allah kuma na gode lokacin da kuka nemi abokin tarayya ya wuce gishiri ko riƙe ƙofar. Amma ma'aurata a cikin kyakkyawar dangantaka sun ce ƙoƙarin haɗin gwiwa don nuna godiya akai-akai wani abu ne da ke haifar da bambanci idan ya zo ga haɗin kai (da kuma na dogon lokaci). A gaskiya ma, binciken da aka buga a cikin jarida Dangantaka ta sirri An gano cewa nuna godiya shine mabuɗin don samun lafiya da samun nasara a aure kuma cewa sauƙaƙan yin godiya ga abokin tarayya zai iya zama mai ƙarfi don magance lalacewar ko da faɗa. (Ba sau nawa kuke jayayya ba, amma yadda kuke mu'amala da juna lokacin da kuke jayayya abin da ya dace, marubutan binciken sun bayyana.)
2. Ba sa wuce gona da iri akan layi
Duk muna da wadanda Abokan da suke bush online game da kowane guda biyu m. Shekarar farko? Zaki. Bikin cikar farko na lokacin da kuka fara raba ruwan ice cream tare? Hmm, dan tuhuma. Bisa lafazin masu bincike a Kwalejin Haverford , da yawan rashin tsaro da wani ya ji game da dangantakar su, zai fi dacewa su buga a kan kafofin watsa labarun game da shi don tabbatarwa. Akasin haka, ma’aurata masu farin ciki sun fi farin cikin tunawa da muhimman abubuwa na musamman a asirce.
3. Suna Sha'awar Gwada Sabbin Abubuwa
Gidan cin abinci inda kowa ya san sunan ku abin maraba ne na zawarcin ku, amma ma'auratan da suke ƙoƙarin haɗa abubuwa sun fi farin ciki a cikin dangantaka, a cewar karatu da yawa ciki har da wanda Jami'ar Rutgers ta buga . Dalili? Sabon abu yana aiki-aikin yin sabbin abubuwa tare a matsayin ma'aurata yana taimakawa dawo da malam buɗe ido kuma yana haifar da haɓakar sinadarai a cikin cibiyar ladan kwakwalwar ku da ta yi girma a farkon kwanakin. Har ila yau, girgiza abubuwa ba ta da wahala kamar yadda ake ji. Ba dole ba ne ku yi lilo daga chandeliers. Kawai je wani sabon yanki na gari, yi tuƙi a cikin ƙasar ko mafi kyau tukuna, kada ku yi shiri kuma ku ga abin da zai same ku, in ji Dokta Helen E. Fisher na Rutgers. Jaridar New York Times .
4. Basu Damu da Karamin PDA
A'a, ba muna magana ne game da jima'i a kowane dare ba, amma ma'aurata masu farin ciki da farin ciki sune wadanda suke A-OK tare da ƙananan ayyukan so na jiki. Nazarin a cikin Jaridar Dangantakar Kai da Zamantakewa rahoton cewa kawai fara tuntuɓar jiki—riƙe hannaye, rungume akan kujera, runguma—na iya sigina ga abokin tarayya cewa akwai aƙalla sha’awar kusanci.
5. Ba sa barin jita-jita a cikin Ramin
Ma'aurata da yawa suna daraja wannan a matsayin dabbobin su na farko, amma ma'auratan da suka zauna tare suna yin hidima tare, a cewar wani binciken da aka yi. Zaɓen Pew Research . Duk ya zo ne ga ƙoƙarin haɗin gwiwa don ɗaukar ayyukan gida (wanda kuma ya zama yarda da yadda ake cin lokaci). Don haka, waccan kwanon hatsin da kuka bar gefen nutsewa wanda zai ɗauki daƙiƙa biyu kafin a wanke? A yi kawai. Auren jin dadi shine lada.
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